Well, I’m back. I’m finally spending some time at my desk. For the past few weeks, I’ve been busy. I haven’t published a thing. Heck, I’ve barely written much at all.
And of course, I’ve been beating myself up about it. Thinking about how I should have stayed focused and powered through. I should have pulled all nighters until my words turned to gold.
But how foolish does that sound? If I’m fried, I’m fried. I can try (which is what we should do) but it’s unlikely that I’d produce anything of value.
Which is perfectly fine.
Why should we fault ourselves when we’re trying our best? Even when we aren’t trying our best, is it that big of a deal? Does beating ourselves over the head with repetitive thoughts ever solve anything?
Let me answer that one for you (seeing as I’m a professional over-thinker). No, no, and no.
In the case of our minds and attitudes towards ourselves and our lives, a bigger mallet isn’t going to help. It’s only going to hurt.
We really know how to defeat ourselves. And we have no idea how to pick ourselves back up. We’re a bit pathetic actually.
I think we need to remind each other of how we sound. And when no one is around to listen, maybe we should speak our thoughts into the mirror and look into our own eyes.
We can’t continue to be hard on ourselves without ever being soft.
Sometimes we’re going to fall short. So be it, that’s life. I don’t know how many times I have to say it until I believe it, but I’ll keep on going.
There are 1000 baby steps between every giant leap. Consider all of your “failures”, “faults”, “short-comings” and “mistakes” baby steps.
Some days are home runs. Others feel like strikeouts. Either way, the game will go one. There’s always the option to try again next time. All the way until there are no more next times.
I’d rather focus on the effort. I’d rather devote my heart to being a better human being to myself and others. I hope you feel the same way.
The judgmental approach just doesn’t work. It might whip us into shape over time, but how much will that matter when we’ve accomplished all of our goals, but still feel like crap because we’ve been slapping ourselves around the whole way there?
I prefer the simple approach. Noticing when we’re off track and kindly correcting course. It doesn’t have to be a personal thing. It doesn’t have to be complicated.
Desire to be better. Hope to change. Commit to trying. Put in the effort. From there, let what happens, happen.
Seeing life for what it is builds wisdom. Accepting life as it is brings peace and freedom.
Those three things are like the windshield wipers on a car.
Finally, it’s a little easier to see things clearly.
The drive home feels much safer now.
Hopefully, I can keep this writing up. Hopefully, you can keep on doing whatever it is you’d like to do.
I think we’ll be just fine.