This is Just a Little ReMINDer

Who thinks about work on a weekend? Let alone while cruising around Florida in a Corvette?

We had just gotten to our hotel and I snagged a parking spot right up front. As I climbed out of the driver’s seat, this pesky thought crept into my head.

Don’t forget you have work on Monday.

Well, of course I do but who cares. It’s 78 degrees, sunny and I’m 1,159 miles away from home!

I had to catch myself. I’ve been down that road before and I know that sometimes even the slightest rebuttal against thoughts is like taking the lid off of a fire ant farm.

Thankfully I was able to snap out of it and avoid the argument, with myself. I just let the thoughts be on their way. Continue reading

What Does The World Mean To You?

“Do you mind taking the lead on this?” He asked.

“What exactly are we talking about?” I replied.

“There’s a meeting about it 9 am, just stop by my office when you get a chance” He said.

Well, seeing as it was already 8:47 am, there wasn’t much time for discussion.

As I sat there, I started thinking about all the things I had to do and how this was just another thing to add to the list. I felt like giving up.

Then I remembered I have 2 dogs at home. I remembered that my car was parked outside and I could drive off. I remembered that my family lives close. I remembered that my girlfriend laughs at my jokes. I remember how much I like to write. I remembered a lot of things that reminded me that work wasn’t my whole life.

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Don’t Blow Your Fuse

I should be use to it by now. The last minute projects and unreasonable deadlines. But I’m not.

I’m getting better at caring less, which is nice. But unfortunately, I still have my moments of feeling overwhelmed.

You know when you try to power up too many things in your house and the circuit breaker trips? That’s essentially the same thing that happens to us when we’ve got too much on our plate. Tasks start to seem impossible, we feel swamped, we stress out and we snap.

The only difference is as human beings we can’t just flip a switch to bring the power back. Our minds are more like fuses, they pop and we have to start fresh.

We need time to recover. The problem is that most of us don’t give ourselves a moment to rest. Even when we “rest” we’re occupied by technology or entertainment. We keep pushing ourselves, forcing things and staying busy until our lives start to feel like quicksand. Everything we encounter makes us feel like we’re sinking deeper into an abyss of to-do lists. Continue reading

The Kind Of Love That Works

“Hatred never ceases through hatred, by love alone does it end. This is an ancient truth.”

– Buddha

 

I’ve seen a lot of protests lately. The anger and frustration in peoples seems somewhat justified. But the hate is questionable. The vengeance only pushes pain from one heart to another.

I guess sometimes it seems like hatred is the quickest way to defend our beliefs. But it’s those quick thoughtless reactions that cut us deeper, as people.

How can we solve this? Were the Beetles right? Is love really all we need? Could it be as simple as hugging our enemies?

I remember when one of my coworkers told me that “all that peace and love stuff is great, but it doesn’t do anything”. He’s right, it usually doesn’t. Because in too many cases we’re looking to have fun instead of using love as a way to approach our lives. There has to be a balance between the two. The pain, the fear and the sadness need to be addressed too.

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Seeing New Things, Going New Places

As the airport doors slid open and the warm Florida sun touched my skin, I looked down and spotted a lizard scurrying across the walkway. I was 11 at the time and I had only seen lizards on TV and in library books.

I remember that moment vividly. It was like culture shock to see and experience something that was completely out of the ordinary. To this day, I still smile when I see those little reptiles.

There’s something special about traveling and experiencing things away from home. It connects us to more than what we know.

I read this article by a sociology professor who left her hometown of Berkley California to spend 5 years in Louisiana. She wanted to learn about the locals and understand their political views, which were completely opposite of what she was used to.

I’m not that interested in politics, but I was drawn to a story that’s toward the end of the article. It’s about a woman named Sharon who sells life insurance and wants to provide her children with a better life than she had. Continue reading