How The Little Things Make A Big Difference

I don’t remember the first time I had coffee, but I imagine it was gross.

Or maybe I added a bunch of cream and sugar to mask the bitterness.

I’m not sure, I was probably 12.

I’ve never really liked coffee. I can’t seem to get it to taste right. It’s either liquid candy or dirt.

But sometimes I drink it to fit in with the aficionados. A hot cup of joe next to my computer as I write makes me feel important.

I can’t deny that it packs a pretty nice energy boost. And the smell of hazelnut is wonderful.

Still, I’m not a big fan.

I’m stuck on the classic stuff that I’ve always liked. At least that’s what my girlfriend says.

Old cars, vanilla ice cream, black and white sneakers.

I’ve never put in the effort to experiment and create my perfect cup. I just assume it’s not for me.

I added it to the “do not like” list. I do that a lot.

We all have our favorites. The things we never stray far from. Our safe zones.

And sometimes they hold us back. They keep us from exposing ourselves to new things and new ways.

Our little habit of staying in our comfort zone and living by assumption, snowballs into the larger portions of our lives.

We stick to what’s familiar and become afraid change, too nervous to switch things up.

We keep jobs we hate. We stay with people that hate us. Our sense of strength crumbles.

All because we fear the unknown.

But we can’t grow without experimenting. Testing and trying is what creates our sense of curiosity and discovery.

Just like when we were kids. We knew how to try things and we knew how to give second chances.

We just have to start small, then build our confidence from there.

Newness can bring freshness to life. Getting past the fear is the hard part.

I’ve been experimenting with coffee this week and it’s starting to taste a bit better.

Medium roast, coconut milk, cinnamon and coconut sugar.

Or maybe it’s all in my head.

All we can do is try.

Change Your Mind About Change

I saw a lonely tree starting to lose its leaves.

Each gust of wind tugged another leaf loose from its summer home.

As I watched the leaves fall, I thought to myself, the seasons are changing.

I flinched at the thought of winter.

What is change? Maybe this tree had more to say.

I wanted to know what happens to trees in autumn, so I did some research.

The two things that I found most interesting were:

  1. Trees lose leaves to preserve energy before the harsh weather.
  2. When they shed leaves, they pull nutrients from each one of the leaves and store it until next spring.
This tree was asking me to look at change in a new light. In its own way, it was showing me that letting go is what feeds us and prepares us for the next moment.

Really change is just a continuation. It’s a shift that uses what’s old to make room for something new.

And as sad I am to see summer slip away, I feel better knowing that it isn’t far. It’s still here somewhere, waiting patiently for its moment to shine again.

Life is a journey that allows us to continually begin again. And change is the thread that connects all of our new beginnings.

Our minds change, our bodies change, our feelings change. It’s part of being alive.

Change is much easier if we remember each passing moment without wishing moments never passed.

I’m most resistant to change when I try to imagine how things will turn out. Because I imagine things will only get worse.

But we don’t have to imagine the how. We can simply understand that things will change and leave it at that. Nothing more is needed.

Change is our chance to both let go and open up to new growth. Just like the tree.

If we tend to our fear of change with love, laughter and tears, even the hardest things will become softer.

Just smile and surrender to what’s happened, what’s here and what’s coming.

It’s all been designed so perfectly.

Is Change Worth The Risk?

It never feels like it. Being comfortable feels too good. Staying put feels safe. But I hope you’re fed up. I hope you’re starting to realize that “comfort” and “safety” are driving you crazy. I hope you’re reaching your tipping point. I hope your willing to change.

All you have to do is be willing. You don’t have to neglect your reality in order to do something different. You just have to work with the life you’re living. There is a way. Find the way. Work with what you have and do the best you can. Don’t give in just because the odds seem to be stacked against you. It doest matter. What matters is that you stay with it. What matters is that you build momentum. What matters is that you give yourself the opportunity to generate courage. Courage is your ability to work with what’s here rather than avoiding it. What better way to do that than to start from where you are?

Ask yourself, what’s really at risk? See if you can get to the bottom of what holds you back. Fear is my roadblock and for a long time, it discouraged me from taking risks.

Decide today that you’re willing to make a change. Make a promise to yourself that you’ll take one small step toward change each day. Feel your way through. Even if you don’t know what to do, just try. Everything falls into place when you decide to try something. No matter how difficult its been in the past, you can always begin again today.

Spreading Dark Clouds

We share the negativity and think we’re spreading the word. Do we do it for attention? Do we want the world to know that we’re frustrated? Or maybe we just don’t know how to handle it. We see the problems as big and our impact as small. But what if we changed our approach and questioned our motives before we hit post? Take a moment to think of the receiver. How will they benefit from this? Will it cause them to approach their day with a negative view? How does it feel when you see and read all of the hate and fear? Would you vote to carry on the cycle or declare that it ends here? You can only change what’s in your control.

Accept the world as it is. From acceptance, we can really make a difference. We have to be compassionate for others because we’re all living here together. Acceptance doesn’t mean we have to like anything. It means that we put down our resistance and see the situation for what it really is. When we see a situation for what it really is, we can better understand it and better understand how to approach it

Be the change that you want to see in the world. If you want less hatred, less fear, less anger, then learn to work with those things within yourself. From there, enter the world with a new perspective and watch the impact it has on those around you.

Nothing will ever change if we continue to do all things the same.