Make It Through

Sometimes when it rains it pours. Sometimes when it rains it drizzles. There’s never really a rhyme or reason.

I guess we could get scientific or spiritual and come up with an explanation, but that won’t change the way we feel when the family picnic gets ruined by a hailstorm.

The “why” just gets in the way. Instead of being able to experience what life feels like, we’re busy demanding or supplying answers. As if it’s going to completely soothe our emotions.

It might help, but it’s not a solution. Life has no loopholes. Hacks don’t really work.

Life is what it is. Happiness, peace, love, pain, fear, death, beauty. Plus more. Make your own list. See what emotions resonate with you right now. Continue reading

Happy Independence Day

Everyone loves fireworks. Except for my dog Dez.

He’s not enjoying the never ending display of explosions happening in the neighborhood.

He’s never had a problem with fireworks in the past, but that changed this year. Our neighbor got the good stuff. No sparklers or confetti poppers around here.

We all know what happens when amateurs get their hands on the stuff meant for pros. They screw things up. We’ve all see the videos. And that’s exactly what happened Friday night. Continue reading

Everyday Life

The other day I was driving next to a pickup truck that was flying two American flags. They flapped in the wind as we drove.

When we stopped, I noticed how beat up both flags were. The edges were tattered and torn from the wind.

I thought to myself, how could the wind do that? Then I laughed and thought about how the invisible forces in our lives wear on us the same way.

But really these forces aren’t invisible. We just distract ourselves with busyness. Intentionally or unintentionally ignoring what’s too hard to handle.

Things like fear. Not fear of seeing the doctor. That’s little fear. I mean big fear, like the fear that we may leave this world never having achieved the things we had hoped to.

That’s hard to imagine. That’s hard to think about. That’s hard to live with. Continue reading

It’s Not Your Job To Fix Everything

I heard from the interns at my old job this week. One of them decided to quit and walked out.

Now there’s only one man left standing. He messaged me and mentioned that he’s trying to decide what to do.

It sounds like for now he’s going to stick it out and see if he can take advantage of the situation. Maybe ask for a better position or a little more pay. You know, play it by ear.

When I first heard the news, I jumped into “how can I help fix this” mode. But I caught myself, and instead of sharing what I thought would be best for him, I asked him what he thought he wanted to do. Continue reading

The Power Of Influence

Today’s my last day at my current job. Monday I’ll be starting somewhere new.

It’s been a frustrating situation, but sometimes that’s just how these things play out.

For the past few months, I’ve been working with two interns. And now they’ll be on their own without a lead.

I realized the other day that I almost failed them. I’ve been sharing too much information about what I feel is best for me without reminding them that it might not be what’s best for them. Continue reading