I remember sitting in math class and drifting off as soon as I heard the word “formula”. I never favored the formulaic approach. It just wasn’t interesting to me.
Halfway through a lecture, I would tune back in, but it was too late. I was lost. I had questions, but of course, I never raised my hand. I refused to disturb the class. I didn’t want to look like a fool. I thought that if the instructor caught on, I was guaranteed to fail.
But it was all nonsense. I know I wasn’t the only one who was lost. And I know I wasn’t the only one with questions. I should have just asked.
It’s funny how often I backed myself into a corner. Knowing exactly what I needed, but never asking for it. Even when the world was willing to help. To this day, I still catch myself falling into the same old trap.
We’ve all been there
Many of us struggle with asking for help. We’d rather figure things out on our own. We don’t want to look bad or waste anyone’s time. After all, we’re “grown” we should have it all together.
But we don’t. Refusing to ask for help is like playing tug of war with an elephant. You’ll lose every time. Some of your problems are just too big to handle alone. Life is a team sport. Don’t set yourself up for failure.
In my math class, my instructor and fellow students were my resources, but I was too afraid to use them. I passed the class, but I put myself through hell trying to figure it out alone. It’s probably the reason why I hate math. I was playing tug of war without a team. If I would have just asked for help, the odds would have been in my favor. I could have avoided the struggle.
What should you do?
When you’re drowning in your problems, reach out for help. The world is your resource. Together we can keep each others head above water. Let others help you put things into perspective. Sometimes we just need a reminder that everything is going to be ok, even when it doesn’t seem like it.
Our lives will always feel heavy if we don’t distribute the weight. We all need support. Whether it’s a friend, family member or professional, they’re here to help. And if you think they aren’t, it’s probably because you haven’t given them the chance to be.
You don’t have to spill your heart out to the next person you see. Just take small steps. Think of the people you love and trust. Start opening up to them. Slowly build up the courage to share your story. Sometimes the encouragement we receive from others is the only lifeline we have. Reach out and grab it. The help is here, why don’t you just ask?