Modern day life is kind of like standing in a money booth. So many of the things we desire are within arms reach. Even the stuff we feel like we can’t reach isn’t beyond our capability of someday obtaining.
And it’s not only the material stuff. We want the intangibles too, like better relationships, better habits, less stress, more fun, etc. We want it all and there’s plenty of how-tos on how to get it.
I’m big in to cars, so I have a tendency to drive down the road, see a car I like and think, “I should get one of those”. It seems like an innocent enough thought.
Then I start to imagine what it would be like to drive one. Then I wonder how much it would cost me. Then I imagine ways I could earn more money to buy more cars. It’s a never ending story that leaves me feeling like I need more of something if I want to feel happy and content.
There’s nothing wrong with wanting, but we often forget that we don’t have to do anything with our desires. We can have them and take no action.
It’s easy to get lost in our wants and don’t wants. It’s hardwired into our systems because in the past it was the only thing that mattered. Getting what we wanted (food, water, shelter) and avoiding what we didn’t want (saber tooth tigers and starvation) was how we survived.
The problem is that most of us aren’t in life or death situations on a daily basis and having a life or death mentality around things that are nowhere near life or death creates a scene of confusion in our minds.
Confusion that rattles our emotions and makes us feel like we have to do something. We end up asking ourselves these absurd questions about the direction our lives are headed and we want to change everything we’re doing all because of a silly little Ferrari.
A lot of the time we’re better off simply appreciating things and letting them pass by. It can save us from all the added stress that comes with wanting what we don’t have.
We’re going to want things, have things, get things and miss out on things. It’s part of being human. We just have to tune into the mechanisms that are running underneath the surface and remember to approach things with wisdom rather than our automatic reflexes.
So have desires, do you’re thing. Just make sure you’re aware of what you’re doing and that you’re ok with all of it.
Even when you’re not ok with any of it.
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