When I’m working toward something and it doesn’t seem to be playing out as expected, I start to believe that maybe it’s not meant to be.
But what does “meant to be” even mean? For me, it’s self-pity. It’s me saying “I deserve this” rather than “let me work with this”. It’s me defeating myself and giving up hope.
So where does the hope lie? How do we make sense of our lives when things go astray?
I don’t know.
But I do know that if we continue to take the commonly used approach, nothing will ever make sense. We will always feel hopeless.
The commonly used approach directs us to avoid our lives. Live in the land of thoughts and assumptions. Get caught up in emotions. Ignore what is here and wish you were somewhere else. That’s it, that will bring you joy!
Yea right. Good luck bulldozing your way through life and expecting to feel good at the end of the day.
It doesn’t work.
If I’ve learned anything thus far, it’s that on the outside, life doesn’t make sense. The only time I’ve been able to put the pieces together is when I first turn inward before I face what’s outward.
I regroup and reassess and I’m able to clearly see what helps me and what hurts me.
It’s been my experience that peace is our natural state. Relief is there when we let everything else fall away. The unease is something we create.
The more often we turn inward, the more often we’ll alleviate the stress. We have to begin to rely on our inner refuge.
There isn’t some complicated philosophical method to finding your inner refuge. It’s simple. All you have to do is do less.
Meditate, be mindful, pay attention, be here now. It sounds too simple to work, but it does.
The most challenging part is persistently maintaining a practice and untying the knots that you’ve been tugging on your entire life.
You’ve already tried everything everyone else is saying, now how about listen to yourself for a change?
Try putting down your thinking and embracing the present moment. You have to if you want to move forward.
Simplify, simplify, simplify.
Work on proving to yourself that it’s ok to let go. If you continue to complicate your life, you’ll never hit the ground running. You have to turn inward and remember that your life is a process. Relax and let go. Your relief lies within. Don’t try too hard.